F-Listed Sexpert Q&A: Female Virgins into S&M and Men Curious About Squirting & Bum Sex

Over the past few weeks some of you boys and girls have reached out with some sex and relationship questions, and I thought it would be nice to share your questions so that all of us can learn and benefit from the conversation. If any of you have any questions or thoughts they’d like to share, feel free to hit me up at mmartinez@flisted.com. Nothing is off limits! (And yes, that is me with the corndogs. What can I say, I’m a classy girl!)

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Q – I think i might be into S&M and I’m a virgin. Does that me a crazy girl?

Absolutely not! (Well, maybe a little crazy.) I don’t believe people can just brush off urges that strong, albeit sexual or non. It’s because of that reason that you must embrace what you are and what makes you happy. (Presuming it’s legal, of course. If you’re into kiddies, I suggest you go on a permanent vacation.)

If you get excited thinking of or watching S&M adult entertainment, there is nothing wrong with that. What is important, however, is for you to be safe and take the necessary precautions if and when you decide to participate in said activities. This doesn’t apply just to S&M, but to any type of sexual interaction.

I suggest you do your research online and learn of the dangers and what precautions you need to take before making the plunge. I’ve known of girls getting tied up to the bed, and then their ass-of-a-boyfriend breaking up with them and leaving them like that.

I think most of us would benefit from admitting to our inner selves what gets us off, instead of feeling guilty about it. Having a partner of similar mind will certainly make it easier for you fall in love with your instinctual sexual appetite.  

XOXO

Melysa

Q – In the forum there was the Squirting question… just wondering your experience with it? And also about anal sex… is it stimulating for you? Can women orgasm from it? Thanks for your time. Oh, and is that a pic of you in the header of the site? 

Squirting doesn’t make me all warm and randy on the inside, but I will admit I find it so unsettling that it’s almost comical to think about it. My understanding from what I’ve read is that a woman squirting normally results when she has a g-spot orgasm, as opposed to a clitoral orgasm. It should be noted, however, that a woman doesn’t necessarily orgasm and/or ejaculate when she squirts.  Many women hold back from having a G-spot orgasm, because often it can feel like the same sensation as when one needs to urinate, because for most women, G-spot orgasms are far more intense and are often when more liquid is released. (Not pee-pee.)

A friend of mine in college said a former friend-with-benefits of his was a squirter, and that it totally freaked him out the first time. And while I think it’s natural to feel uncomfortable with the concept, I think it’s important not to judge anyone who is into that. It doesn’t make anyone any more a perv or whore, in my opinion. You like what you like. See question above. 

*UPDATE* A guy friend of mine on IM just compared his former girlfriend, an apparent squirter, to a cup of Starbucks coffee.  He wrote, “It was like a faulty lid on a Starbucks’ coffee cup. Say you have a cup of starbucks in your lap and you are driving, and your legs happen to squeeze the cup and make the lid pop off spilling the contents inside all over your inner thighs, and it all just comes at once. It was actually kinda hot, cuz you felt this incredible pressure….like when you kink a hose and then let it go.” Well, there you have it folks! Take that for what it’s worth.

But enough about squirting (that’s a Pulitzer Prize-winning sentence fragment right there), let’s move on to anal intercourse. Anal orgasms can feel extremely pleasurable for a woman on account of the sensitive nerve endings the penis rubs up against on the rectum, which shares a “wall” with the vagina. 

Of my girlfriends and me, I would say half of them enjoy booty sex, and the other half does not in the least. Something to take into consideration: Most girls I know who don’t like it, aren’t all that fond of giving oral sex either. In which case, my assumption is not that they don’t like butt sex in particular, but they are more prone to be grossed out by “icky” things in general. Don’t take offense, and above all, don’t force her to do something she doesn’t want to do. If you desire a girl who wants you to penetrate her chocolate starfish, I advise you go after a girl who is into that. Trust me, the sex will be oh so worth it.

To read more about anal intercourse, click here.

And last, but not least, nope, I am sad to report that the woman on our site banner is not me.  But the above pic of the chick with the corndogs? Yeah, that’s totally me in all my perverted glory. My poor mother! 

XOXO

Melysa

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